Tone Policing Is Unacceptable…NO MATTER THE CAUSE

This year when I finally opened up to what was really going on with me and around me (because I busted out of years of numb depression) as I said in several posts before (so I apologize for constantly repeating this but for context I have to) a lot of painful grief, anger and bottled up emotions came pouring out.
Now…one of these causes of the anger I had bottled up was of something specific. Something that I and nobody should be letting someone do the them. Something that had me enraged wayyy before the numbness back to when I was a kid where it all started….and DURING the numbness from people like my ex, the voice coach, the “support” groups, McLean Hospital, all of college, all of post college classes, EVERYBODY. What was bothering me was what the title of the post says, TONE POLICING.
Let me explain in a list what tone policing means to me and why it is unacceptable in all forms within all problems people face.
-Tone policing is being told to relax when you don’t feel relaxed and then that order ends up making you even LESS relaxed.
-Tone policing is being told to smile to present a good image because we need to accept that superficiality and impressions are more important than feelings and one’s mental health.
-Tone policing is being told that anger is equal to hate.
-Tone policing is saying autism is curable and then not apologizing for saying that unless it’s to avoid conflict with the rightfully offended person, conflict YOU caused with your ignorance.
-Tone policing is telling people who are saying they are suicidal that they better not say that again or they will be hauled off to the crazy house.
-Tone policing is being accused of blaming other people for their problems.
-Tone policing is telling you that to make your blog more accessible, you should not swear.
-Tone policing is telling you that to make your blog more accessible, you should be less angry in your tone.
-Tone policing is telling you that you can’t do something when it’s harmless….Yeah seriously the list is endless, but that term “you can’t do…” is thrown around much too often by authority figures.
-Tone policing is being told by a toxic, stigmatizing person that “you need to understand…(fill in the bullshit blank)”
-Tone policing is the GOP members telling protestors to “act civil” when children at the border are being caged and separated from their families.
-Tone policing is getting mad that Robert DeNiro said “fuck” at an award ceremony on live television (GASP!!!) like his legitimate reason for it is no excuse or something
-Tone policing is saying to a black man that the reason you don’t have anything is because you don’t know how to go in places and “act properly”.
-Tone policing is telling a teenager they are too young to have sex so therefore they are also too young to know what their sexual preference is or that they are forbidden from being transgender.
-Tone policing is a so-called non-profit Aspergers Internship Program run by ignorant, bitch-made neurotypicals that we need to accept the fact that disclosure in “the workplace” is risky and it’s just the way it is.
-Tone policing is saying “You can do anything you put your mind to” BUT INSTEAD OF LEAVING IT THERE they add in “as long as it is reasonable and appropriate”
-Tone policing is insane people calling non-insane people “terrorists” because are peacefully protesting against them.
-Tone policing is Marco Rubio complaining on Twitter about journalists now using the word “fuck” more often.
-Tone policing is a doctor shaming someone who is in the hospital for a suicide attempt because he/she is “wasting what could have been a bed for a legitimate patient”
-Tone policing is saying you don’t need to put Autism Speaks out of business someday “just because you personally don’t like them”
-Tone policing is telling someone who was physically, sexually or mentally abused by their parents, step parents, teachers etc that all of that is in the past and you are using it as an excuse.
-Tone policing is telling victims of depression that they are using depression as an excuse and are “playing the victim” for a “pity party”
TONE POLICING IS INFLUENCING YOUR KIDS AT A YOUNG AGE TO HIDE THEIR FEELINGS WHEN THEY GROW UP SO WHEN THEY DO GROW UP THEY STRUGGLE TREMENDOUSLY WITH THEIR MENTAL HEALTH, HOLD EVERYTHING IN OUT OF FEAR AND POSSIBLY END UP ENDING THEIR OWN LIFE AS A RESULT.
If you haven’t caught the message I am trying to say, just like masking, tone policing is mental poison. And poison is murder. Don’t be a murderer. Be a caring person that could save lives. Thank you.

2 thoughts on “Tone Policing Is Unacceptable…NO MATTER THE CAUSE

  1. I’m really sorry. I don’t know how to use these sites responsibly yet, I’m still learning. I hope I’m figuring it out. I think Tone Policing is about me. I didn’t mean to piss you off or trigger you. I get it if you want me to leave you alone

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